Breaking free from shame and self-blame after divorce

If you came out of a relationship feeling ashamed, stuck in self-blame or questioning your self-worth, this episode offers compassionate guidance to help you heal and rebuild confidence.

Released: 18 February 2026
Updated: 26 March 2026
37 MIN
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Emotional journey

If you came out of a relationship feeling ashamed, stuck in self-blame or questioning your self-worth, this episode offers compassionate guidance to help you heal and rebuild confidence.

Kate is joined by Sarah Wilson, founder of Coastal Coaching and host of The Inner SUCCESS Story podcast, to explore how toxic relationship patterns form, why shame often follows separation and how low self-esteem can make breakups feel even more painful - especially if you were the one who chose to leave.

In this episode, we cover:

  • Sarah’s personal experience of staying in an unhealthy relationship
  • How shame can show up after a breakup 
  • The link between childhood experiences and adult relationship patterns
  • Why low self-esteem can worsen the emotional impact of separation
  • Actionable steps to build self-love and self-compassion post-divorce

This episode is for anyone navigating the emotional aftermath of a difficult breakup who wants to understand themselves with more compassion and begin rebuilding confidence from a steadier place.

**Trigger warning: **this episode covers content that some listeners might find distressing, including toxic relationships, emotional abuse and shame.

Meet Sarah Wilson

Sarah is the founder of Coastal Coaching (Sussex) Limited, a keynote speaker and the host of The Inner SUCCESS Story podcast.

Her early family relationships shaped a deep sense of not being good enough, a pattern that followed her into adulthood and her marriage. After leaving an emotionally abusive relationship, and inspired by her young son, she committed to deep personal change.

In 2020, Sarah founded Coastal Coaching to support professionals stepping into leadership and help them build confidence from the inside out. Her work is grounded in accredited coaching practice, lived experience and a belief that people have more choice than they realise. 

You can learn more about Sarah on her website or you can get in touch with her on LinkedIn. For more tips on how to break free from self-sabotaging habits, you can tune in to her podcast The Inner S.U.C.C.E.S.S. Story.

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