Constructive conflict: how to argue well during divorce

If you’re finding conflict hard to manage during separation and co-parenting, this episode is full of practical tips to help you disagree in a calmer, more constructive way. Kate is joined by psychotherapist and divorce coach to explore why arguments aren’t always a bad thing – and how learning to disagree well can transform your relationship with your ex-partner and your children.

Released: 16 February 2026
Updated: 15 June 2026
37 MIN
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Emotional journey

If you’re finding conflict hard to manage during separation and co-parenting, this episode is full of practical tips to help you disagree in a calmer, more constructive way.

Kate is joined by psychotherapist and divorce coach  to explore why arguments aren’t always a bad thing – and how learning to disagree well can transform your relationship with your ex-partner and your children.

In this episode, we cover:

  • Eve’s separation story and how arguments shaped it 
  • Why arguments don’t have to be destructive
  • How to break cycles of unproductive conflict
  • The key skills that stop disagreements from escalating
  • Why self-regulation matters during separation and co-parenting
  • How to have productive arguments with your children

This episode is for anyone navigating separation or co-parenting who wants to reduce conflict and communicate more effectively.

Meet Eve Stanway

Eve is a psychotherapist with 25 years of experience, break-up and divorce coach and published author who specialises in guiding parents, individuals and professionals through separation, co-parenting and recovery from toxic relationships. 

You can learn more about Eve and get in touch with her on our website. For more helpful communication tips, you can tune in to her brand-new podcast, Dare To Speak: Difficult Conversations That Changed Everything. 

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