Dealing with divorce guilt and shame through therapy

In this episode, Kate was joined by Paul Huntingford to discuss how therapy helped him through his divorce journey.

Released: 14 June 2023
Updated: 8 January 2026
34 MIN
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Emotional journey

In this episode, Kate was joined by Paul Huntingford to discuss how therapy helped him through his divorce journey.

 About the episode:

They begin this episode by looking at how Paul’s separation impacted his mental health, when things went sour after the involvement of solicitors, ultimately leading to a complete breakdown in communication between Paul and his ex. Kate and Paul talk about the role that shame and guilt played in his separation and the trickiness of navigating the emotional journey. It's interesting to learn how Paul has used his divorce experience to help others move through their separation and deal with their emotional journeys. They finish the episode by looking at practical tips to help if you're going through a divorce or a breakup. 

Trigger Warning This episode covers content that some listeners might find distressing including poor mental health and abuse.

Organisations who can help:

About our guests:

Paul is an integrative therapist working in private practice. Paul is passionate about group work and increasing access to psychological support around divorce and separation. His own divorce experience led him to retrain as a therapist having previously worked in sports and healthcare settings.

More resources:

Get in touch with amicable for information on the legal, financial and children aspects of separation. Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert through the amicable website.

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