Living together after separation: intimacy, boundaries and break-up sex

In this episode, I am joined by an award-winning author, Cate Campbell, to discuss intimacy, whether trial separations are a good idea, and boundaries while living together post-separation.

Released: 28 May 2025
Updated: 8 January 2026
38 MIN
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Life after divorce

In this episode, I am joined by an award-winning author, Cate Campbell, to discuss intimacy, whether trial separations are a good idea, and boundaries while living together post-separation. 

About the episode:

Kate and Cate begin by discussing what intimacy might look like for ex-partners, especially for those who have separated but are still living together. We also explore how boundaries might be set in those situations. We then move on to discussing break-up sex, its causes and consequences, and how to have a mature conversation about it afterwards. We also touch upon ‘trial separations’ and why they might be unhealthy for you and your ex-partner. We finish by exploring boundaries with your family and friends after a split, and how little daily rituals can help you get through a tough time. 

Please be aware that this episode contains sexual references so you might want to listen out of earshot of any children.

About our guests:

Cate Campbell is a psychotherapist, supervisor and trainer specialising in relationships and trauma, working with individuals, couples and families. She is accredited by the British Association for Counselling & Psychotherapy (BACP), College of Sexual & Relationship Therapists (COSRT) and is an EMDR Europe. consultant. She is the author of The Relate Guide to Sex & Intimacy, Love & Sex in a New Relationship, Contemporary Sex Therapy and Sex Therapy: The Basics.

More resources:

You can learn more about Cate on her website and you can get in touch with her via email - cate.campbell@btopenworld.com 

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