Values in divorce: a coach's guide to staying true to yourself

Your values shape every relationship you have - so what happens to them during a separation?

Released: 27 May 2026
34 MIN
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Emotional journey

Your values shape every relationship you have - so what happens to them during a separation?

Kate is joined by Katie Lancaster, an executive and leadership coach, to explore why holding onto your values during divorce can change everything about how you come out the other side. If you're trying to get through a divorce or separation in a kinder, calmer way, this conversation is full of practical tips to help you stay grounded.

We talk about:

  • How to stay true to yourself in tough divorce negotiations - even when emotions are running high 
  • The ABC technique (awareness, breathe, choose) for moving from reaction to response 
  • Why self-compassion is a non-negotiable, not a nice-to-have 
  • Why your divorce might not feel over even when the paperwork says it is

This episode is for anyone going through separation or divorce who wants to come through it feeling stronger, kinder and more like themselves.

Meet Katie Lancaster

Katie Lancaster is an ICF and CTI certified executive and leadership coach who helps senior leaders and teams perform better and find more meaning in their work. After starting her career at Boston Consulting Group in Munich and completing an MBA at IESE Barcelona, she held board-level roles at global communications agencies in London. She has also built her own consultancy, advises start-ups and is a member of the Harvard Business Review Advisory Council.  You can learn more about Katie on her website and you can get in touch with her on LinkedIn.

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