In brief: Why emotions matter as much as the law in divorce

Divorce is an emotional journey with legal and financial consequences – but what happens when the professionals helping you through it don't understand that?

Released: 22 April 2026
27 MIN
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Emotional journey

Divorce is an emotional journey with legal and financial consequences – but what happens when the professionals helping you through it don't understand that?

Kate is joined by Annmarie Carvalho, award-winning therapist and former family solicitor, to explore why the emotional side of divorce matters just as much as the legal side – and what that looks like in practice.

We talk about:

  • From solicitor to therapist – and why the emotional side of divorce drew Annmarie in
  • How to spot a legal professional who truly gets the emotional journey
  • Why the five stages of grief is a myth – and what healing post-divorce really looks like
  • The skills that help you navigate divorce negotiations more effectively
  • Practical tips to support your wellbeing during separation

This episode is for anyone going through separation who wants to feel more understood, more prepared and more in control of how they show up through the process.

Meet Annmarie Carvalho Annmarie Carvalho is a multi-award winning therapist, trainer and public speaker. Before retraining to become a therapist, she was a family solicitor and mediator at Central London law firm Farrer & Co for over a decade. Annmarie set up the therapy, training and coaching agency TCC in 2018 with a mission to provide better mental health support and improve psychological understanding amongst lawyers and those working in and around the legal profession.

Since then, she has worked therapeutically with hundreds of members of the legal profession and trained many more, with a goal to help those in the profession ‘stay sane’. Her first book ‘Staying Sane in Family Law’ is aimed at helping legal professionals better understand the psychological demands of family law work. 

You can learn more about Annmarie’s work on her website and you can get in touch with her on LinkedIn or on Instagram.

More divorce resources **Ready to take a practical next step? ** Book a free 15-minute consultation with an amicable expert for guidance on the legal, financial, emotional or co-parenting aspects of separation. 

Want ongoing support through separation? Kate’s book amicable divorce includes dedicated chapters on emotional readiness, navigating separation with kindness and moving forward with confidence. Find it on Amazon today.

Got a question for a future episode? Share your thoughts at hello@amicable.co.uk or through direct messages on Instagram.

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